9/4/2023 0 Comments Plr sessionHe doesn’t like to, because he says every time I ask him the same thing, and he doesn’t want to talk about it.” He says yes, sure, but I’ve never seen him like a girl.” “That wouldn’t be acceptable, would it?” I tried to empathize, meanwhile felt intrigued as I was working with the gay man Harry.Ĭlara chuckled as if it was the funniest joke. “Maybe he is interested in… a … man?” I felt a little adventurous myself. “Not interested in growing a family? Or not interested in girls?” “He says he’s not interested?” I noticed Clara used a rising tone. “It’s the next step to take, isn’t it? To get married and have children!” “In his 30’s.” There was irritation in Clara’s voice. “Because he doesn’t want to start a family.” “No,” Clara sighs, “I’m still disappointed at him.” “He is a teacher now, teaching literature at the college where he eventually studied.” I took Clara forward in time to see what became of Nicolas. According to Clara, he didn’t seem to know what he wanted to do. He was less focused on his future, didn’t do very well at his studies, and worst of all, he said he didn’t want to get married. It was their second son Nicolas though, who gave Clara a “headache”. Three years after quitting school, as was expected of her, she found herself a husband in the neighbourhood and became a housewife just like Clara. She liked to spend time in the kitchen helping her mother. She didn’t care about school and studies and she dropped out at 15. The big city became too overwhelming for Clara after a while although Samuel fully enjoyed the trip. Years later he had become a busy surgeon in Moscow and Clara and Samuel went to visit him. Clara felt very proud of him although she was saddened for him to be moving so far away. Following the wedding, he moved to Moscow to become a doctor. But I did some research after the session and learned that in Ukraine, tea is called “chay”.Ĭlara and Samuel’s oldest son Ivan got married when he turned 22. “I don’t know the name of it but I am going to call it ‘chay’.” I could see that underneath this Clara woman who was speaking to me, Harry was doubtful. I asked Clara what they called their tea. On the other hand, Clara admired Samuel’s openness to things and his adventurous spirit.Ĭlara liked to get together at times with her friends when they would play cards and drink a very dark tea, with a little bit of sugar, which they poured from a colourfully painted porcelain teapot. At times when they needed to speak to a poorly performing farmer, she was the one who spoke. Clara was honest, direct, and she didn’t hold anything back. Clara helped with budgeting and other affairs in the business. Her husband Samuel liked smoking pipes and going to all sorts of musical concerts. There was not much to do on the farm, the two younger children stayed in school, so she had a lot of time to read, which she loved. About 15 other families worked for them on the farm. She lived with her husband and three young children. Harry found himself as a woman on a large farm. We went to a life in rural Ukraine back in 1878. And now that he was ready, his inner mind would know how to guide us for the journey, to the exact life we needed to see this day. Since Harry was a counsellor, I felt his inner mind would be very rich and full. Harry came back for his second session and again, we decided to leave the exploration open. Thankfully my brother was there, and he remembered the incident.” I felt very distressed, and I told my grandma that I didn’t want to marry a woman… My grandma was so traumatized that she blocked that memory. I remember when I was 6 and my family was talking about me marrying and having family in the future. That was when Harry shared more of his current “unconventional life” with me: broken family, reconstructed and broken again, moving and relocating all the time, being a Pakistani born in Europe and now living in Canada, and him being gay. Harry couldn’t quite believe it himself, remarking, “I’m surprised that I had such a conventional life in the past.” It was an exceptional beginning to what turned into a normal and traditional life. After the war, the commander went back to his hometown, worked, raised a family, and lived to an old age. So he thought now was a good time to contextualize his past experiences with the present and future.ĭuring the first session, Harry went to a life as a commander during the Great War. There were going to be a lot of changes, including moving to Montreal and taking a PhD program. He was a counsellor himself, but he told me that he was at a juncture in his career and his personal lives. “I understand the physical body is just temporary,” he emphasized to me on the phone.
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